General musings on the ups and downs and ins and outs in the life of a 30 something, unmarried, life loving, some times interesting and sometimes not, mostly happy girl just trying to figure it all out!

Friday, August 23, 2013

Friday Five (Quotes)

I learned this one growing up at the farm with Big Sal. I adore the Goodwill and thrift shops!

This is a really hard one, especially in my family. We have a tendency to let our struggles be who we are, not what we are going through.

I mean, REALLY! You only need book ends if you are putting some books out for display like my beautiful collection of Willa Cather books from S. Case in point, yesterday I went to the Goodwill (see above) on my lunch break and left with two glasses (mis-matched, of course) and 6 books. At $1.99 you just can't leave them! And you can never have too many books.

This is another toughie. I let someone go from my life a few months ago and it was incredibly hard. But the truth is, we were not good for each other.

Keep faith. It's all we really have.

Thursday, August 22, 2013


Do you nickname people? If you do, do you ever refer to them by their real names again? Because I don't.

This is AC and I (AshHam) last week. She is a true love of my life, my spiritual stronghold, and as crazy and unstable as I am; we HAD to be friends. She and her husband stopped to see me on their way to Corpus. He is "The Hubbs." As in I have never referred to him as Shep or Sheppard since they got married. Literally. And I do this a lot! 

I prefer nick names because I adopt people into my life and heart and I feel like it singles them out as significant and necessary in my world. Also, once someone had a nick name you are forever bound. They cannot go away.

My boyfriend thinks this is very weird. Conversation after lunch with AC and The Hubbs last week:

G: How was your day, baby?
Me: AWESOME!! I got to see AC and The Hubbs!!
G: What?
Me: I had lunch with AC and The Hubbs.
G: Who is that?
Me: Ashley and Shep. I told you they were driving through.
G: Yes, I know that. But The Hubbs? I thought you went to see a band or something,
Me: No, his name is The Hubbs. I never call him Shep.
G: OK... do you ever call people by their real names?
Me: No. Why would I do that?


My sisters: Kae and Mana
- Mana hates this. Kae lets me do whatever I want -



G or Boyfriend
- I do refer to him as German sometimes. But he's still newish. - 

So there you go. When I assign people highly important roles in my life, they get nicknames... never again to be known by their actual names. It's a quirk. I have lots of them. 

Friday, August 16, 2013

Friday Five (Quotes)

I adore quotes. I collect them like a crazy woman. And now, with Pinterest, it's just too easy. I don't even have to write them down any more! Ahh, technology...

1. Here's one I actually DID jot down from a book (an AWESOME book! Highly recommend it).
"The key to happiness is to own... who you are, own how you look, own your family, own the talents you have and the ones you don't. Not only our actions, but also our omissions, become our destiny." - Cutting for Stone

2. Just had lunch with my friend Ash from P'cola. We're so far apart now and it STINKS! But our friendship is as strong as ever.

3. Whoever this woman is, I love her! Is she right or is she right??

4. I talk to my books. My boyfriend thinks I am nuts. I also talk back to voice mails as if there were a person there.

5. Two weeks, people! Two little weeks until college football!!

Wednesday, August 14, 2013


I'm reading Captivating again. Scanning/reading is probably a more accurate statement. And re-absorbing the powerful parts of this book that made such an impression on me.

One point it makes is that women tend to be more defined by relationships. We are relational beings, created in God's image to reflect his desire for strong, intimate relationships. I was thinking about that, and I think it's very accurate for many women. Even as the world changes and morphs and women move into bigger leading roles around the globe; these women, we, still hold the roles of mother, daughter, friend, wife, and struggle with balancing these roles with work.

The book says, "Most women define themselves in terms of their relationships, and the quality they deem those relationships to have. I am a mother, a sister, a daughter, a friend. Or, I am alone. I'm not seeing anyone right now, or my children aren't calling, or my friends seem distant."

How true is that for you? It struck a strong chord with me. In thinking about myself and my role before I moved to Texas, I was Ashley Hamlin, DIB Program Manager. My job was so consuming, even when I no longer loved it, the wherever I went in the city, whatever I did, I felt defined by it. I had to be on guard and alert.

Moving to Texas made me anonymous. I have a non-demanding (although rather non-rewarding) job here. But when I walk out of the office door, I'm just Ashley. I am best friend, auntie, sister, daughter, girlfriend. I am whatever that moment makes me. And these roles, these roles that I cherish, now define my life 100% of the time. The more I thought about it, the more I realized how big a difference that loosing that career woman role made in my life.

Don't get me wrong- I miss that role at times. More often these days, actually. And I still entertain the thought of taking it back, although not so seriously I hope! So I certainly don't mean that we, women, should drop them. Not at all. I just mean that if we are more aware of which roles we let take the most weight in our self-definition, how can we change ourselves?

These thoughts have been rolling around a lot in my head recently.

All About Ashley

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Spring, TX, Southern, United States
Playing with and keeping up with my nephew and niece take up a lot of my time. Van Geaux takes up the rest of it. Work is an afterthought most days! I like to be outside- but not when it's too hot. I get bored at my desk all day. Niki keeps my world spinning and without her and AC I'd lose it. My work ethic crashes at 4 p.m. daily and I live my sweet puppy and my hedgehog whenever I am not at Niki's. I truly believe naps are quality pass-time events, and sometimes I say bad words at work. I'm pretty sure I'm insane on multiple levels and I believe rules don't apply to me.
It seems that my life is quite entertaining. I didn't realize this myself, but was informed of it by my friends- who are rather entertained by tales of my life occurrences.

I'm far from a professional writer. These are just stories, comments, and other items for simple amusement. Hopefully it's a fun read, as Shannon plans to edit it into a book one day! Maybe we'll become famous, and maybe we'll just have some good laughs at my expense (and some other characters in my life). Either way, happy reading!