That Coworker

Ugh- I have one of them, you guys! He's awful. There is just not much about him that is at all acceptable. I promise you that I have tried. I really, really have. He's just a very abrasive guy.

And it's not just me- he's quite rude to all of us. He talks down to you, gets mad and pushes when you don't put his projects first and do them right away, and flat out tells you how he wants you to do your job. We have somewhat of a support group for working with him going on behind the bosses backs.

But here's the thing... I am a woman and I'm in marketing. It's different. Everyone still thinks it's "just marketing" and that the engineers and programmers are higher in importance. So while the others just get annoyed and move on, I get thrown under the bus. I get to have the big boss copied on my emails with him.

Today, my boss asked me if things were tense between us. I was honest, but tactful. Then the afternoon ended in a "big deal" that really wasn't. And it looks like there is a lot of tension. I hate that it's looks like I pick at him and push him. It's just that my job is the only one that gets things thrown into the open.

I feel like I want to explain, to tell my boss why and what actually happened- that I was just trying to make a good decision and not put the company out of money and time. But will it look like I'm the complainer???

I just don't want him to step in and ruin what is becoming a very comfortable little life.