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Tuesday, June 28, 2011

Making New Friends

I'm kind-of having a hard time with this. I've gone to quite a few networking events and Meet Up groups over the past few months. I'm pretty proud of myself, actually, because I am content to just stay with Niki. But it's bad mojo to base your life on one person (even if that person is perfection). So I've been branching out.

But the truth is- it's difficult making new friends. The friends I have just clicked. We were friends right away. Sure, we spent time getting to know each other. But it was always easy and we were comfortable together. And friendships go through phases- sometimes it takes work to stay in touch, sometimes you argue. But in the beginning I never had to push myself to do things with them. Now I do. Even when girls seem nice, eeeeeh, not for me. I don't believe in forcing friendships. And I'm not looking for acquaintances.

So what have you done? What things have worked for you?
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  1. Amanda ShrewsburyJune 28, 2011 at 5:26 PM

    Ashley your blogs are always after my own heart! Sorry, no pointers to offer, but I've had the same problem here. After 3 years of trying I've made one good friend, and it wasn't that 'click' easiness of my other relationships. Maybe there is a secret we're missing out on.

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  2. JoanJune 28, 2011 at 9:19 PM

    Ashley, I think the older you get, the harder it is to make good friends. It's OK to have a few friends that are good to go to dinner with or just to go out and about with. They may never be your very best friend, like Niki, but you still can enjoy them. Kinda like my friendship with your mom. She's been my best friend since high school. I have a few friends now, but not like your mom.

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  3. Melissa BlakeJune 29, 2011 at 10:28 AM

    It's good you brought this up. As adults, it's so much harder to make friends. When we were younger, all we had to do was have our parents set up a playdate for us. :)

    love your blog, btw!

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  4. MandeeJune 29, 2011 at 10:54 AM

    I agree with Joan. It's ok to have those friends that you don't click deeply with but have a fun time going to dinner or an event. Enjoy it, and then focus on working on your fewer but closer friendships!

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Playing with and keeping up with my nephew and niece take up a lot of my time. Van Geaux takes up the rest of it. Work is an afterthought most days! I like to be outside- but not when it's too hot. I get bored at my desk all day. Niki keeps my world spinning and without her and AC I'd lose it. My work ethic crashes at 4 p.m. daily and I live my sweet puppy and my hedgehog whenever I am not at Niki's. I truly believe naps are quality pass-time events, and sometimes I say bad words at work. I'm pretty sure I'm insane on multiple levels and I believe rules don't apply to me.
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